Anxiety…. What a (very real) Bitch!

Hi Beauts,

Any of you that are regular readers will know I’ve got past experience with anxiety. Naively I thought I was done with all that….

On Tuesday I had a panic attack; the first I’ve had in well over 18 months. It came out of nowhere, as these bitching things often do. The familiar feeling of tightness in my chest, struggling to get my breath, shaking hands, that weird sweaty hot feeling you get but you’re also shivering. But not with cold, with fear. Part of your mind is thinking “calm down, count your breathes” the other part of you is thinking “why the fuck is this happening again” and all the while there are a million other overwhelming thoughts rushing through your head that you can’t slow down, take in, deal with.

Anxiety has been described as this:

“More than just feeling stressed or worried. While stress and anxious feelings are a common response to a situation where a person feels under pressure, it usually passes once the stressful situation has passed, or ‘stressor’ is removed.

Anxiety is when these anxious feelings don’t subside. Anxiety is when they are ongoing and exist without any particular reason or cause. It’s a serious condition that makes it hard for a person to cope with daily life. We all feel anxious from time to time, but for a person experiencing anxiety, these feelings cannot be easily controlled.”

It seems anxiety really can be an underlying cruel and unspoken torment that many of us suffer without A) realising and B) talking about. But I think by talking about my own experience, if it helps just one person, then I’m doing a good thing and it’s totally worth talking about.

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Anxiety is a horrible emotion. A feeling that cannot be controlled, and different levels of anxiety lie in different people. People deal with it differently, and whereas some can handle high levels of stress, there are others of us who struggle to handle it at all.  It affects people in different ways. There are people like my husband, calm, collected, laidback. I am so jealous of his ability to breeze through life, distance himself from getting stressed. Although I have a hugely optimistic and positive outlook on life, I also suffer with high levels of anxiety

A lot of people probably think I have a near on perfect life. I am a stay at home Mum, I get to do something I love with my writing, and admittedly I have a very lovely lifestyle – I’ve got a beautiful home, a loving husband, and an amazing son. So many people would wonder “what on earth has she got to be anxious about”.  But you mustn’t assume just because someone seems to be confident and always positive, they must not have real life problems; that is so wrong. There are a lot more things to people than you might not at first realise.  Hand in hand it’s so important not to make the assumption that someone who openly admits they suffer with anxiety, or depression, that they are some unstable headcase or that you don’t know how to speak to them.  So many people will suffer with these things without you even knowing it. It doesn’t make them any less of a person.

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One of the most frustrating things about panic attacks is there can often be no reason. When mine triggered on Tuesday, I had no idea what I was panicking about. I don’t know what set it off. Imagine that your head is full of hundreds of filing cabinets full of different information; memories, things you’ve learnt, places you’ve been. Well, there is this one filing cabinet that stores every panic attack you have.  Where you had it, what happened, who was with you, what you were doing, everything. When you re-enter the same place, doing the same thing, that cabinet unlocks and releases the same adrenaline and emotion. It can be the most minute of things. My brain thinks it’s protecting me by making me enter “fight or flight”. Your body sets itself up to either run away or fight the situation. If your body and mind faces certain types of stress this can trigger. It’s as though you’re the car in the street whose alarm goes off at the smallest gust of wind whereas al the other cars can take a good beating before their alarm sounds; you’re just a bit more sensitive to stress than others.

I’ve always been a worrywart ever since I was a child. I do have a lot of memories as a child where I was on edge. My parents had a very volatile relationship, there was a vast amount of raised voices and banged doors. It was a fiery relationship (oddly enough one that did have a lot of love and 40 years on they are still together by some miracle). But I do think that this is where a lot of my worrying stemmed from. I was always on edge there might be another argument, or that my parents would split up. You can’t choose your family, and I love mine, but I do think this may have been the starting point….

It sounds horrible, as though I am passing the blame. I’m really not. I guess you look for answers, you want to know why you’re programmed to be so anxious. Cause it’s so frustrating. I don’t want to be a worry wart to the point of giving myself these panic attacks. They are so horrible. And that’s not how I want to live my life. I refuse to let them define me. I don’t and won’t let them stop me going out and doing what I want to do. Finding a way to deal with your anxiety is pretty crucial. As you may have guessed, my way of dealing with anxiety is to write every thing down. I don’t just mean my blog, but I write lists; lists of things that are worrying me (literally a worry list – this was hubs idea), lists of things that need doing, lists of things I mustn’t forget. Because seeing things written in black and white can help you to take a step back and realise there are certain things in life that are just not worth worrying about. Who cares if the house is messy today, or if I skip doing the washing for a day! I am terrible for storing up a gazillion minute little things and before you know it those filing cabinets in my head are full to the brim of things “I should be doing”! When really all I should be doing is looking after Josh and myself, and in creating worry in my head I can’t do that to the best of my abilities. I am absolutely terrible for overthinking. Its a flaw I recognise in myself and one I am seriously working on!

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Some days it’s easy to kick yourself up the arse; you look at what you’ve got, how beautiful life is and feel really lucky. Other days all feels grey. You lack motivation and it can be so hard getting that mist to lift; you want it to but it’s there fogging your mind and judgement. Speaking up is a must. As I’ve said my husband is very laid back, he’s also very black and white and, without sounding cruel, he’s not very emotional. I think it’s because he generally always tries to see the positives which is a great thing. But he has never had to deal with a mental health issue, nor (to my knowledge) has anyone in his immediate family. I don’t think he quite understood anxiety until he saw me have a panic attack. But thankfully given his laid back personality, he was very good at calming me down. Even though I know he didn’t get it and I think it freaked him out a bit, he knows me better than anyone, he knew what to do and how to soothe me. Thankfully he hasn’t had to deal with me having one in a long time and I was alone (apart from Josh napping) when this one occurred on Tuesday. When I told him what had happened I could feel his fear “is she going to go through a rough patch again”. It’s hard to reassure him that this isn’t the beginning of me spiralling into a depression but just a horrible side effect of living with anxiety. But you can’t let panic and anxiety stop you living your life. You’re never going to have this day, this life again. When you’re in the midst of a panic attack it’s hard to think of this but you have to try and tell yourself “what’s the worst that’s going to happen”. You’re not going to die – even though in that moment you’re so sure you will because your heart is racing so hard you’re scared it’ll explode, or you’re petrified you’re not going to get your breath back. It’s obviously a lot easier to put things into perspective when you aren’t in the middle of an attack.

One of the things I’ve started to do to try and reduce my stress levels is eliminate putting time limits on myself. I am awful for being hard on myself; if I’m spending time playing with Josh I feel guilty for not blogging.  If I’m blogging, I feel guilty that I’m not paying 100% attention to Josh. I am really bad for listing in my head all the things I should be doing and I have to have it done right there and then. If I decide to write a blog post in my head, I have to get it done that day; written; published and put on social media. But then I let things slide such as washing or tidying. But I wish I could say to myself WHO CARES. Who cares if the washing waits a day, who cares if Josh’s toys are all over the floor for a day. Is it really that big a deal?! No, not really! I need to stop telling myself I MUST get stuff done by a certain time or day, and just get done what I can. I know for a fact this will eliminate a lot of my stress. If you’re an anxious person don’t set yourself time limits on anything; timed schedules just maximises stress. Just do things the way you feel you can at your own pace.

People don’t chose to go through anxiety, stress, depression or any other form of mental illness. The words mental illness are so strongly judged; people are made to feel shamed or stupid or as if they are making a bigger deal than necessary. It’s no wonder so few people speak up about these things. I really wish I could do something, anything, to help educate people about anxiety and what the horror of a panic attack entails because those of us that have them and deal with them are fucking heroes in my opinion.

Having said all of this doesn’t change the Fi you’ve all got to know. The  positive, happy Fi who loves a glass of fizz and another pair of shoes! The Fi who is a doting Mummy who drives her friends nuts by posting yet another gorgeous picture of Josh on Facebook.  I don’t think my character reflects what I’ve written here . It might all come as a surprise to a lot of people, but that’s the things with disorders such as anxiety and depression – more often than not, no one knows.  But I don’t think anyone can truly understand what your brain can tell you. The bad angel on my right shoulder tells me constantly ‘you’re going to have a heart attack! you’re going to die!’ whilst the good angel on my left shoulder plays me meditation music and says to me ‘breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth’ like my mum would do to me when I was little girl when I had a funny turn.

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For me it’s about balance. I’ve had a rough couple of days and now I’ve had time to look at my life, what my priorities are and how to calm down the million and one thoughts running through my head. I have to speak up; to my husband, my friends, you guys. It really helps. I have to make a conscious effort to stop being tough on myself and trying to do it all. It won’t all get done; get over it. All that is important is that I keep Josh warm, happy, fed, alive and that I look after myself by not overloading myself with pointless tasks that are not the be all and end all. I am going to stick to my list writing but in a positive way; write down every daft thing that’s in my head and look at it and realise just how much I am wasting energy on these things and instead put that energy into having a great day with my son. And I am, somehow (I don’t know how yet) going to do what I can to help others who suffer with anxiety and panic attacks. Because I think it’s important people know what to do if some one they love is going through this.

For those of you who have someone close to them who suffers with anxiety and are unsure of what to do if they were to suffer a panic attack these tips may help:

  • Remain calm. There is nothing worse than being with someone who is freaking out whilst they are, they will never calm down if you are flapping about like a headless chicken.
  • Do not be forceful. Be patient, and accepting.
  • Let them do things at their own pace.
  • Don’t make assumptions about what the person needs, ask them.
  • Find something positive in every experience. If the affected person is only able to go partway to a particular goal, such as the cinema or out for a coffee, consider that an achievement rather than a failure.
  • Remember that they don’t choose to be this way. Do not show any disappointment or annoyance when panic strikes or if they feel they can’t do something.
  • In a panic attack, DON’T say: 
    “Pull yourself together. Relax. Calm down. Don’t be anxious. Let’s see if you can do this (i.e. setting up a test for the affected person).  What should we do next? Don’t be ridiculous. You have to stay.  Stop being silly, what’s wrong with you”.
    Instead, DO SAY: 
    ” I am proud of you. Tell me what you need now. Breathe slow and low. Stay in the present. It’s not the place that’s bothering you, it’s the thought. I know that what you are feeling is painful, but it’s not dangerous. You are courageous. Remember that panic attacks only last a maximum of 20 minutes. You can get through this”.
  • Do not try to distract them with stupid questions. We don’t want to say the alphabet backwards or talk about our day, it just highlights the fact that we are having a panic attack, thus creating more panic.
  • Be supportive & reassuring. After a panic attack, the person can feel down, depressed, angry, insecure and with very low self esteem. It’s your job to help them to feel better about themselves and simply be there for them.

I can see how difficult it can be for those who don’t know how to deal with a panic attack and how to help someone in that situation. I really hope these tips help in case  you’re ever in that situation.

One thing I’ve learnt is that I am not alone. Panic attacks are very common and I’ve had several friends admit to me they’ve also suffered. If you are going through any form of anxiety or depression speak up – speak to someone close to you. Don’t let anxiety ruin your confidence or your self esteem; you’re amazing for even coping with them. Don’t force yourself to do or go to anything that you don’t feel comfortable with. But do seek the support you need and deserve to treat and deal with these situations. Your health and happiness are so important. And if someone close to you is struggling to understand anxiety and panic attacks, please get them to have a read of this. They need to be giving you as much support as they can.

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If this post offers some reassurance to just one person I’ll be over the moon. To be a good mother I need to be open and honest about the challenges I face; that’s the whole point of my blog. And suffering with anxiety is a part of me therefore it’s important to talk about it. And to be a good mother I need to be taking care of myself and stop putting unnecessary pressure on myself; giving myself deadlines that don’t need to be there. So from now on I’ll be going on Fi time; taking everything as it comes, day by day, and doing all I can to work on myself and prevent that horrible feeling of anxiety.

Love

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  1. October 6, 2016 / 6:22 pm

    Ahh Fi, sorry that anxiety has reared its ugly head, it can literally strike at any time can’t it? I have anxiety and panic disorder and as recently as a few months ago I was having up to ten panic attacks a day. I was an absolute mess, going through CBT and back on medication and just unable to function as my anxiety was sky high. I’m having a really tough time with my health at the moment and it’s ironic that when I actually do have something to feel anxious and stressed about, my panic attacks seem to have reduced to maybe three a week which is a major improvement! I’m a huge fan of breathing techniques and focusing on the fact that nobody ever died from a panic attack. It is hard though and I sympathise massively. Well done you for sharing this though, I hope it was therapeutic to write down too. Xxx
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 7, 2016 / 5:54 am

      Thank you so much honey. It’s not easy and it’s disappointing it’s reared it’s head again! I’m so sorry you have also suffered so horribly! It was very therapeutic to write it down and I really hope it helps others xx

  2. October 8, 2016 / 7:46 am

    #fortheloveofblog anxiety means you care and have a sensitive soul. I promise it is also a blessing. Keep talking about this issue – it’s your calling

    • beautybabyandme
      October 9, 2016 / 10:12 am

      This is such an amazing comment thank you so much xx

  3. October 8, 2016 / 8:34 am

    I’m sorry to hear that anxiety is also something that you’re going through. I suffer from anxiety and find that it is also rearing its ugly head lately. Mine tends to set off when I’m in social situations because of the language barrier here in Denmark. I’m studying Danish, which is helping a little.

    I also find that I’m taking it too personally about what others think about my parenting. I tend to worry about so many little things that I needn’t even bother about. I need to learn to relax and not feel like I’m having to prove myself all the time.

    Thank you for sharing your story. Anxiety is more common than people think. It needs to be talked about openly. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • beautybabyandme
      October 9, 2016 / 10:12 am

      I can imagine that must be so challenging hun. I also take things a bit too personally sometimes. You don’t have to prove yourself – believe in you xxx

  4. Kelly
    October 8, 2016 / 9:33 am

    Hope you are starting to feel a bit better, attacks out of nowhere are the worst. I really like your advice for people to help those close to them suffering a panic attack, I struggle to articulate what I need but you’ve done a great job #fortheloveofBLOG

    • beautybabyandme
      October 9, 2016 / 10:11 am

      Thank you so much hun – I am sorry you’ve had to go through this too xx

  5. October 8, 2016 / 11:40 am

    This is a fantastic post, well done you for putting it out there! Helping people understand what Anxiety is and how to handle it is so important. I once had a close family member tell me ‘I was reading your blog and I couldn’t understand how you could be stressed, what have you got to be stressed about?’ That really made me furious, it just highlighted the complete lack of understanding regarding these things in society, and most importantly the lack of support. We need more articles like this xx #fortheloveofblog
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 9, 2016 / 10:10 am

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment. I agree there is a lack of understanding – I wish I could do more to spread the message xx

  6. October 8, 2016 / 2:10 pm

    I’m sorry to hear you suffer with these horrible panic attacks. I am also a worrier, there are some days I feel really anxious with it to the point I’m on edge all day but I’ve never put it down to anxiety as I’ve never had a panic attack – I don’t know if it’s the same thing?! I do know that some days I can feel drained & tense from feeling the stress of the worry. I hope things calm down for you and the panic attacks subside again. #justanotherlinky

    • beautybabyandme
      October 9, 2016 / 10:09 am

      It’s hard isn’t it – sometimes you don’t know how to switch off and relax. I hope you find ways to wind down and ty not to let things get on top of you xx #justanotherlinky

  7. October 8, 2016 / 5:16 pm

    Its reassuring to read your experience with anxiety. I too suffer with panic attacks, although less frequently these days. Thanks for sharing. Hope you feel better soon xx
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 9, 2016 / 10:08 am

      Thank you for commenting lovely – I am glad you found some reassurance in it xx

  8. October 9, 2016 / 10:31 am

    Yet another great post, although I’m really sorry that you’re going through this. I suffer too, although I’m fortunate not to really have full blown panic attacks. Mine is more a constant low lying feeling of panic in my chest and tummy. I like your approach of list writing, something that I was told during CBT was that when you feel guilty or not good enough, make a positive list: things you’ve achieved in life, things you’ve achieved that day, so that you can see how far you’ve come. Really hoping both you and I feel better soon xxx
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  9. October 9, 2016 / 11:49 am

    Thanks for sharing your experiences. Sounds like you had some real challenges to deal with but have really learnt to read yourself which is very beneficial! I have mild bouts of anxiety. Nothing like you’ve experienced but some days I will just feel nauseous about something thar I can’t put my finger on. Those days I feel really unsettled and it’s really debilitating. I cannot imagine what it’s like to have a full-blown panic attack. I hope you don’t have another one for a good long while now! #fortheloveofBLOG
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  10. October 10, 2016 / 7:21 am

    I’m so sorry that you’re going through this Fi. It’s horrible when you think it’s gone away and it suddenly rears up again. Thanks for sharing your personal experience and your advice for other people going through the same, I know it will really help people. If you ever want to chat, you know where I am, even if it’s just to vent and I’ll listen! Lots of love xxxx

    Found the post through #MarvMondays x
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 11, 2016 / 6:52 pm

      You’re an absolute diamond – thank you sweetheart xxx

  11. October 10, 2016 / 1:07 pm

    Oh Fi, I’m sorry that you had a bit of a reprise. I have various issues with anxiety (and other such delightful things) and when they’re “back” it can feel like a slap in the face. I’ve only had a couple of panic attacks but they’re terrifying, my first happened while I was delivering a presentation to 40 new starters at my company and ever since then I’ve been terrified of public speaking in case it happens again. This is a superb post on a horrible subject xx

    • beautybabyandme
      October 11, 2016 / 6:51 pm

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment. It’s very scary when you experience them and I hope what I’ve written helps others xx

  12. October 10, 2016 / 3:22 pm

    Such a brave post. Anxiety is horrible. As a word of encouragement, I just want to say that I used to suffer dreadfully with panic attacks. I haven’t had any for about 7 years so I thought I was clear of them but then suddenly I had one on holiday this year. I had exactly the same thought as you – “why is this happening again?? Is the start of it all going wrong again?” which made the whole situation so much worse. However, that was 2 months ago and I haven’t had any more. So 1 panic attack doesn’t mean you’re on a downward spiral again. Be brave. #MarvMondays
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 11, 2016 / 6:50 pm

      Thank you so much! Your comment means so much and you’re very brave to speak about what you’ve experienced too xx

  13. October 10, 2016 / 7:46 pm

    What a truly real and raw post. And it will do the world of good just ranting and expressing yourself here. Anxiety is as you said yourself, a bitch. It’s sneaky and uncaring and controlling. You hit everything spot on. I totally agree with the whole setting time limit thing. I think I do this too now I think about it. Put extra strain and stress on myself when really it’s unnecessary. I hope you are feeling the strong women we all know you are and supporting you always. Be brave, be you. It’s ok not to be ok and thanks for letting us share this #marvmondays

    • beautybabyandme
      October 11, 2016 / 6:49 pm

      Such a lovely comment thank you so much it really means a lot to me xxx

  14. October 10, 2016 / 9:01 pm

    Such an honest post that must have been hard to write. We all kid ourselves that we are ‘just a bit tired’ or ‘things will be o.k tomorrow’ but sometimes they wont and we need a helping hand. There is always a rainbow after the storm #justanotherlinky

    • beautybabyandme
      October 11, 2016 / 6:47 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment xx #justanotherlinky

  15. October 11, 2016 / 10:13 pm

    Panic attacks and anxiety in general are real bitches. I have what I believe is known as functioning panic attacks. They are not the horrendous breakdowns that are portrayed sometimes on the telly. Unless you know me very well you probably wouldnt know anything was wrong, but I am on auto pilot. My mind is focussed on the thoughts and the feelings. They are exhausting.
    I have found things that make it worse, caffeine, Sugar rushes, getting too hot as well as some very personal triggers.
    The fact that you can push through your panic and know its not going to hurt you shows you are strong, and you will kick its butt again xx
    #marvmondays
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 14, 2016 / 5:46 am

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment chick – I agree on the caffeine thing it is a trigger for me xx #MarvMondays

  16. October 12, 2016 / 6:56 am

    Oh wow I could have written this post myself, you have described my life! I have suffered with anxiety and panic attacks for years, and it’s the reason I started my blog! I have come to accept that I will always be an anxious person, and there are times in life when they will probably reappear (I am going through one right now). The difference now is that they don’t scare me anymore and I can control it a lot better. Exercise, meditation and music are essential in helping me deal with it. What also helps is that I keep in mind that it won’t last forever, and usually as soon as it appears it is gone again. Hope you’re feeling better x #BloggerClubUK

    • beautybabyandme
      October 14, 2016 / 5:46 am

      I am so sorry to hear you are going through a challenging time. It’s great that you know what things can help you control them and overcome them xx #BloggerClubUK

  17. October 12, 2016 / 4:06 pm

    Fi this post is so informative and so honest. I am sorry to hear you had a panic attach recently but, like you said, it doesn’t have to be the start of a downward spiral. I can get quite anxious about doing knew things or going into stressful situations. I’ve never had a panic attack but the stress can make me feel physically sick and like I might faint. I used to feel this way about going to the supermarket on my own, all the people used to really freak me out. Hubby didn’t understand and it was so hard to explain to him. Since becoming a mum I’m a lot better with these things but if I do start to be stressed about something then I just don’t do it or do it when I’m ready. Like you said, it’s all about doing things at your own pace and for others to realise people cope with things differently. I’ll share your post as it has such an important message xx #BloggerClubUK
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 14, 2016 / 5:45 am

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment sweet xx #BloggerClubUK

  18. October 12, 2016 / 9:31 pm

    My sister suffers from anxiety, and whilst everything most of the time looks and seems relatively “normal”, I know that there are some things that she really struggles with that others might not know about. This has been such a useful post to read as it gives me a bit of an insight into what it looks and feels like, and what actually helps someone suffering from it so thank you. A really brave and lovely post. Thank you for sharing it on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • beautybabyandme
      October 14, 2016 / 5:44 am

      I’m so glad you found it helpful chick xx #MarvMondays

  19. October 13, 2016 / 4:26 pm

    They’re bloody awful panic attacks aren’t they? I’ve had many myself and wrote a whole chapter about them in my book about fear of driving. One thing I would say is eat regularly to keep your blood sugar steady and don’t have too much caffeine. An empty stomach plus lots of coffee can be a quick way to trigger a panic attack and we don’t want that.

    Very best wishes and good luck to you

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    • beautybabyandme
      October 14, 2016 / 5:40 am

      Thank you for that tip – I have made an effort to cut out caffeine. xx #SharingtheBlogLove

  20. October 13, 2016 / 7:15 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been going through a bad patch with anxiety. I’ve always been an anxious person, but haven’t suffered a panic attack in years – I know it would really throw me to have one now, even though I can still be quite anxious. But it’s clear that you have your head in the right place about it – I always think writing things down is such great therapy. Your husband sounds a lot like mine – he’s very calm, rational, and deals with my my more emotional side very well. Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • beautybabyandme
      October 14, 2016 / 5:39 am

      It’s so hard dealing with anxiety isn’t it – having a good influence around you makes all the difference. xx #SharingtheBlogLove

  21. October 14, 2016 / 1:11 pm

    I’m sorry that anxiety has returned to your life. You sound like you know what works for you in how to handle it and a good support network around you. I suffer with anxiety and still working through a lot of stuff to get to a place where I know what can help me get to a better place. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  22. October 15, 2016 / 6:11 am

    I can’t imagine what this must feel like, but I have friends that are going through the exact same thing. It sounds pretty tricky and terrible to deal with at the time, but it sounds like you have some good tips and thoughts on hand to help you deal with it. And you are absolutely right the household chores can wait to another day, they do not need to be done now. I hope that once you are reading my comment you are feeling much better. Claire x #BloggerClubUK
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  23. October 17, 2016 / 6:32 pm

    So sorry to hear that you’ve been going through this Fi. It’s a very frightening experience but well done for sharing and raising some awareness of it. I’m sure it will help others who go through this. Thanks for sharing on #fortheloveofBLOG x
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 20, 2016 / 6:04 am

      Thank you honey xx

  24. October 18, 2016 / 8:10 pm

    I’m amazed by just how many bloggers I know who suffer from anxiety including some very well known humour bloggers (probably proving that those who clown about the most are the ones with the heaviest hearts and sadness inside them…the latter kind of describing me). I don’t suffer from actual anxiety myself but I do get inexplicable butterflies in the stomach, shortness of breath and a tendency to feel overwhelmed incredibly easily. I’ve never had a panic attack and I don’t recognise many of the symptoms here BUT at the same time relate to alot of what you’ve written! I’ve always classed mine more as low level depression but maybe this is just semantics. And just like you I’m very glass half full. God we’re a right pair! I LOVE the car alarm analogy! And is it bad that I laughed at the right left shoulder bit? #bloggerclubuk
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    • beautybabyandme
      October 20, 2016 / 6:04 am

      Yes hun it is surprising how many of us experience it. It does sound like you experience some anxiety too. It’s a shitty one to deal with but managing it by removing as much stress from your life is key! Ha ha nah I’ll let you off; life’s always better when you’re laughing! xxx

  25. October 21, 2016 / 1:41 am

    It doesn’t matter how good your life is, anxiety is horrible. I’ve always struggled with anxiety, I have been good since I stopped breastfeeding (fingers crossed), that was a huge trigger for me. Thanks for sharing #sharingthebloglove

  26. October 21, 2016 / 8:55 am

    I could not have said this better myself. I have struggled with anxiety for years. Very well said #SharingtheBlogLove

  27. October 21, 2016 / 10:34 am

    This post is amazing. I could have written it myself (admittedly not half as well, and not the bit about panic attacks either as I don’t suffer from those). Since having my Baby J my mild anxiety has rocketed and at times is crippling. I’m having an assessment with a cognitive behaviour therapist next week and hoping things will improve. I totally relate to you when you say your husband is laid back – mine is too, and it frustrates me. Seriously, I wonder how anyone can worry so little, although I suspect he overcompensates to try to reassure me in a way. I often wonder what people who don’t have anxiety think about all the time… if my worries were gone, my head would be nearly empty! I literally carry out a million risk assessments for each and every situation I am in or might be in, fret about things that might happen or have happened, and overthink things to a ridiculous degree. It’s exhausting. This is a really good post, well written and gives an insight into the tough world of anxiety. I hope you continue to have such a positive outlook 🙂

  28. October 22, 2016 / 12:05 pm

    Fab post. I have had periods of anxiety before and it’s so hard, I know how you feel. I recently just wrote about it too, and I wasn’t that surprised to read several comments where people also said they suffered. It is so common! Well done for writing so brilliantly about it. Oh and my husband is laid back too but I sometimes find that helps because I tell him why I’m feeling anxious and we then rationally discuss it. I find if I can see it rationally then the fear goes away. #Sharingthebloglove

  29. October 27, 2016 / 8:10 am

    I’m an anxiety sufferer too. Mine began when I had my son and suffered from PND. I had no idea how serious and debilitating anxiety could be, it was so bad that even led to thoughts of suicide at one point.

    Thankfully, I recovered from PND and with the help of therapy I learnt how to keep my anxiety under control. Sadly, it’s something I will always need to manage though.

    Well done for sharing your experience here xx #sharingthebloglove
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