There are many celebrity Mums out there that I admire. Which is a good thing because lets face it, we get a lot celebrity Mums thrust in our faces every day in the media
I admire different celebrity mothersfor different reasons. Victoria Beckham for example (and no, not just her epic choice in husband) is a fabulous mother. Obviously her career is a huge part of life and the delicious David is the stay at home parent. But you can tell she is absolutely besotted with her children. It shines through in the photos they share. You can see an element of “normal” family life in their photos and that’s really lovely to see.
But there is one celebrity mother who I have grown to admire an enormous amount. I can’t say I ever expected that one day I’d write a blog post on this individual, simply because before she and I had children I’d never really known anything about her.
Tamara Ecclestone isn’t someone I had much knowledge of before I had Josh. But since entering the crazy world of motherhood, I’ve come to see that she is, in my personal opinion, someone to truly admire.
Before I continue to write anymore I just have to say now I am not a breastfeeding Nazi. I never have and never will judge anyone who doesn’t breastfeed. However I myself am very proud of my breastfeeding journey. And I don’t think I should feel guilty or embarrassed for saying that. It was so hard to conquer those first couple of weeks of breastfeeding; it hurt like hell and it was something both Josh and I had to work hard at. But I am so proud of us both for getting through it. And hand in hand with that is the initial struggle of breastfeeding in public, and again this is something we got to grips with. Surely this is something to celebrate right? Yet I feel at times I shouldn’t voice my pride at what I achieved for fear of upsetting or offending Mums that didn’t breastfeed, and that is not something I’d ever want to do. I support all Mums.
And this brings me to one of the main reasons I admire Tamara. Tamara has been very open about her breastfeeding journey and this is something she celebrates, and rightly so. It drives me mad that people say she’s trying to “glamorise” breastfeeding. Allow me to be blunt (standard) but what a bloody stupid statement. What she’s actually trying to do is NORMALISE breastfeeding, which is something we should all be doing. The comments some of her photos get are so uncalled for and it baffles me that people can feel such negativity and say such cruel things. I simply don’t understand it.
For something that is one of the most natural things in the world, I find the amount of controversy the subject of feeding raises quite unnatural. As Mums, we get questioned enough about the choices we make and we simply shouldn’t be; surely we are all just doing what we know is right for our babies. And Tamara’s choice to continue feeding, and in turn use her public stature to raise positive awareness to normalise breastfeeding, is in my opinion an admirable and positive thing.
Tamara summed it up beautifully during an interview in which she was defending (something she shouldn’t have to do) her decision to publish photos of her feeding Sophia on her Instagram, in which she said “I want to meet all her needs”. For me that sums it up perfectly; she is the one who knows her daughter, not the idiots leaving negative comments on the stupid Mail Online. She knows what Sophia needs and wants and she is putting her all into doing what makes her child happy. How can that be anything less than a wonderful parent.
As a parent, that’s all any of us can do and strive for; meeting our babies needs. It’s so true when people say “Happy Mummy – Happy Baby”. Once us Mums get to grips with things, and we know (to an extent…. none of us are perfect) what we’re doing, we relax a bit and therefore so does baby. And that is a huge part of breastfeeding.
When Tamara posted this photo on Instagram it raised a huge amount of controversy! However all I could see was a huge amount of love and a natural act between Mother and Child. I saw it as a beautiful way of normalising breastfeeding and trying to educate others in a dignified manner. As Tamara has said herself, there is a long way to go in terms of the attitudes towards breastfeeding, which is actually ridiculous when you think about the fact it is 2017 and we are now in a day and age where, overall, we are much more open minded about topics that might cause controversy. The fact that feeding a child in a natural way, and it’s a choice that each mother has to make for herself, causes debate, anger and negative response is actually a really sad thing.
As Mums we are all in it together. The whole point of my blog is encourage us Mums to support each other and never judge one another’s choices. Not every Mum can breastfeed, not every Mum wants to, and it’s so important that we support each others paths in motherhood. We make the choices that are best for our children. For me, I don’t quite understand what there is to be so angry about when it comes to Tamara’s choice in feeding her child and being proud of the photos she shares with us. I applaud her, and her attitude. She handles herself so well and with intelligence in interviews concerning this subject. I don’t think it’s an attention thing at all. I think it’s a Mum celebrating the bond between her and her child; that’s not something to be angry about, it’s something to smile about whether it’s a choice you agree with or not.
I loved this statement from Tamara:
Breastfeeding is a powerful demonstration of love and nurturing yet it has become so normal to hide. I want to take that normal and toss it.
Let’s stop the judgement; don’t we have enough of that shit as parents.