Good Morning My Lovelies!
It’s Monday, it’s a bit grey and I felt that this morning we all needed a bit of a boost! So often us Mummies are tough on ourselves; we are plagued by mummy guilt on an almost daily basis, and we never give ourselves enough credit for the amazing job we are doing. We’ve carried and grown a human, gone through horrendous pain and discomfort to deliver that baby into the world and then been instantly plunged into the unknown complete with extreme sleep deprivation (also known as torture), horrendously painful nipples if breastfeeding, and the many disgusting and unspoken side effects that follow birth! As if we haven’t gone through enough.
I felt lots of guilt to at the beginning of mine and Josh’s journey; I felt guilty for not mastering breastfeeding quickly, I felt guilty for feeling the blues so badly and I felt guilty for those moments of resentment when I couldn’t just go and have a bath or a nap whenever I wanted.
It took a good few weeks for me to realise, I was doing a bloody good job! My son was (and still is) growing beautifully, and I was coping even if I couldn’t see it for myself. It took my husband telling me every day that I was doing amazingly before I’d even acknowledge what I was achieving.
And now I am feeling proud of how far we’ve come, 13 weeks into parenthood. Yes it’s hard, yes I am still tired, but above all I have a healthy and very happy little baby. And that is something to be bloody proud of. All you mummies out there – you are all amazing! You’ve gone through so much in the last 9 months with being pregnant, then being subjected to labour, which can also involve a major operation if you have a c section and then being thrust into this crazy world of Mummyhood. But you’re doing it; you’re looking after your baby, you love him or her more than anything and day by day you are gaining in strength and superhuman mummy powers that enable you to get through those tougher moments!
You, gorgeous mummy reading this, are amazing! You are doing fantastically! Stop judging yourself, ignore peoples opinions when they are negative; use your mummy instinct and keep doing what you’re doing. Cause I bet you’ve got a beautiful baby who thinks you are the best thing in the world – and no, not just because you’re a pair of boobs or have a bottle in your hand, but because you’re mummy. You’re the one who loves them most in the world, who keeps them safe and who has been there with them, side by side, since day one! So cut yourself some slack – you are amazing! Don’t forget it!
Love Fi xx