Good Morning Loves,
This is just a quick little post, one I hadn’t planned to write today, but with lots on my mind and a certain cheeky baby waking me up at 6am I was inspired to write.
Whilst scrolling through my Instagram feed I saw on the wonderful Constance Halls feed that today is “RU OK” day over in Australia. Now obviously I know I am in the UK (I’m not that tired that I don’t realise what country I am in) but I digging a little deeper into this I absolutely loved the essence of this message and campaign.
It’s that age old British thing; we don’t like to talk. Keep calm and carry on right. We hate to talk about things that are perceived as awkward, one of the main things being mental health issues. But this is defeating the whole issue. There have been times I’ve not been OK, and the way I fixed that was by speaking up. It took time and courage and it wasn’t easy, but it worked. It helped and it showed me I wasn’t alone.
You never know what someone else might be going through. You never know what battles they might be facing. People are so good at putting on a front, claiming all is ok. Trust me, I speak from experience. And so often this is through fear of speaking up, being judged. Surely given that its 2016 this has to be time for that attitude to change.
So don’t forget to ask. Check on your friends, family, even a perfect stranger if you sense they need some support. And in turn, don’t forget it’s ok to be honest in your response, even if that means saying No, I’m not OK. Start talking.
Show you care, spread the love, be kind and lets try to make this world a more accepting place. Anxiety and depression is something that has affected me, close friends, family members, colleagues and even those that I admire in the public eye and the blogging world. These unspoken, shied away from issues are more common than you realise. It only takes a few seconds to check someone is ok, but it can open up a whole new world of hope, support and relief to them.
Be kind. Don’t judge. You never know the battles others are facing. As an exhausted mother (seriously kid, sleep through the night! It’s been 9 months!), it can be hard to ask for help. It can be hard to accept help. Us Mums worry it will deem us as failures but we aren’t! We are sleep deprived heroes! Every day we compare ourselves to other Mums; be it our friends, families or other Mums we simply pass in the street and on those hideously hard, tired days it’s easy to feel alone, as though you’re the only one who isn’t coping. Please know you’re not; the opposite couldn’t be more true. You are not the only shattered, grumpy, hormonal Mum. Us Mums need support too sometimes and if there is one thing I’ve learnt from having Josh is to please check on your Mummy friends. Especially those who are first time Mums. Facebook and Instagram can paint such a pretty picture and all may look like it’s wonderful, but there is every chance that yummy mummy friend of yours who appears to have it all sussed may be crying in the shower from sheer exhaustion.
So please ask. Take time out of your day to check on those you care about if they’re OK. Encourage people to speak up. I would love to do something in the UK to encourage us to have an “RU OK” day so if anyone has any information on how I can get involved with raising awareness please drop me a message in the comments below.
Take a moment today, check in with others, make a difference.
Lots of Love