RU OK?

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Good Morning Loves,

This is just a quick little post, one I hadn’t planned to write today, but with lots on my mind and a certain cheeky baby waking me up at 6am I was inspired to write.

Whilst scrolling through my Instagram feed I saw on the wonderful Constance Halls feed that today is “RU OK” day over in Australia. Now obviously I know I am in the UK (I’m not that tired that I don’t realise what country I am in) but I digging a little deeper into this I absolutely loved the essence of this message and campaign.

 

ru-ok-2It’s that age old British thing; we don’t like to talk.  Keep calm and carry on right. We hate to talk about things that are perceived as awkward, one of the main things being mental health issues. But this is defeating the whole issue. There have been times I’ve not been OK, and the way I fixed that was by speaking up.  It took time and courage and it wasn’t easy, but it worked. It helped and it showed me I wasn’t alone.

You never know what someone else might be going through.  You never know what battles they might be facing. People are so good at putting on a front, claiming all is ok. Trust me, I speak from experience. And so often this is through fear of speaking up, being judged. Surely given that its 2016 this has to be time for that attitude to change.

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So don’t forget to ask. Check on your friends, family, even a perfect stranger if you sense they need some support. And in turn, don’t forget it’s ok to be honest in your response, even if that means saying No, I’m not OK. Start talking.

Show you care, spread the love, be kind and lets try to make this world a more accepting place. Anxiety and depression is something that has affected me, close friends, family members, colleagues and even those that I admire in the public eye and the blogging world. These unspoken, shied away from issues are more common than you realise.  It only takes a few seconds to check someone is ok, but it can open up a whole new world of hope, support and relief to them.

Be kind.  Don’t judge.  You never know the battles others are facing. As an exhausted mother (seriously kid, sleep through the night! It’s been 9 months!), it can be hard to ask for help.  It can be hard to accept help. Us Mums worry it will deem us as failures but we aren’t! We are sleep deprived heroes! Every day we compare ourselves to other Mums; be it our friends, families or other Mums we simply pass in the street and on those hideously hard, tired days it’s easy to feel alone, as though you’re the only one who isn’t coping.  Please know you’re not; the opposite couldn’t be more true. You are not the only shattered, grumpy, hormonal Mum. Us Mums need support too sometimes and if there is one thing I’ve learnt from having Josh is to please check on your Mummy friends. Especially those who are first time Mums.  Facebook and Instagram can paint such a pretty picture and all may look like it’s wonderful, but there is every chance that yummy mummy friend of yours who appears to have it all sussed may be crying in the shower from sheer exhaustion.

So please ask. Take time out of your day to check on those you care about if they’re OK. Encourage people to speak up. I would love to do something in the UK to encourage us to have an “RU OK” day so if anyone has any information on how I can get involved with raising awareness please drop me a message in the comments below.

Take a moment today, check in with others, make a difference.

Lots of Love

Fx

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11 Comments

  1. September 8, 2016 / 7:15 am

    Great post, I totally agree with you! It reminds me of those times when is see someone upset when commuting to work. I’d always want to ask if they’re OK, but wouldn’t have the guts. Maybe they’d had a fight with a loved one, a bereavement, had just dropped their baby off to nursery for the first time after maternity leave. You’ve inspired me to ask in future! If I can help at all with this campaign please let me know xxx

    • beautybabyandme
      September 8, 2016 / 8:00 am

      Thank you so much chick. I don’t quite know where to start but it’s something I think we should have over here. I’ll keep you posted on how I get on xx

  2. September 8, 2016 / 10:21 am

    Amen to that! #ablogginggoodtime

  3. September 9, 2016 / 7:13 pm

    A lovely post. Thank you for sharing. So important to remember to ask such a simple question. I do try but I will try to more. I am grateful to those special people who always ask me. #Sharingthebloglove

  4. September 10, 2016 / 3:17 pm

    I love the concept of this day, they should bring it to the UK! I completely agree we are rubbish at talking as a nation, we avoid the difficult questions because we don’t want to know the answer. Such a simple question, but the answer to it could be so much more. I think we all just nod and say yes we are ok, when deep down most people aren’t in some way. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove X

    • beautybabyandme
      September 11, 2016 / 7:55 am

      I really want to bring it to the UK – I don’t know where to start but I’m going to try. It’s such an important message xxx thanks for hosting hun #sharingthebloglove

  5. September 10, 2016 / 6:37 pm

    Couldn’t agree more and I’m the biggest culprit for saying yes I’m okay !! I think for me it’s just easier to say it’s ok rather than delve into my inner secrets with people I don’t trust so much. I do talk to my partner X # sharethrbloglive

    • beautybabyandme
      September 11, 2016 / 7:52 am

      It’s good that you talk to your other half – it helps so much to open up to people xx #sharingthebloglove

  6. September 10, 2016 / 7:10 pm

    I love this! I wish I had the confidence to answer people truthfully sometimes when they ask if I am ok, but sometimes I don’t feel I can answer truthfully. I also don’t feel I have the confidence to ask others, though sometimes want to so much. You have inspired me to try! #SharingtheBlogLove

    • beautybabyandme
      September 11, 2016 / 7:51 am

      Wow to say I’ve inspired you to try is amazing and has made my morning 🙂 xx #sharingthebloglove

  7. September 11, 2016 / 7:25 pm

    I’m totally guilty of saying I’m ok, when I’m very far from it. I think it comes from not wanting to upset people who you think really do care, and feeling that lots of people who ask aren’t genuinely interested in whether you are or not; it’s just small talk. But I have to admit that I’m going through a tough time at the moment and I do need to open up more to the people I’m closest to, I’m going to try this more this week and hopefully it will help things. Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

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