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  • Baby Boys 10 Week Update!

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    Hi Everyone,

    It’s been a busy couple of weeks and I can’t believe as I write this my baby boy is 10 weeks old! The time has absolutely flown by and it is wonderful to be feeling human again. Josh is doing so well – he’s a little chunker and on Monday he weighed 13lb 14oz; not bad for a 10 week old baby. I must have some decent breastmilk because often he doesn’t feed for longer than ten minutes, which is a god sent at night time as we often get back to sleep within half an hour. He’s like clock work with his feeds too now; midnight, 3am and 6am, so things feel a lot more settled now. Having said that, there has been a serious need for coffee some days!


    Having been open about how much I struggled the first few weeks, I am happy to say I am feeling so much better now. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve spoken up about how I was feeling, or because we’ve settled into a bit of a loose routine, or just because time has passed and we are getting out and about lots but everything is so enjoyable now. We’ve been seeing some of our lovely friends from our NCT class and we’ve started some classes including baby sensory. Since we took Josh to the sensory class at Center Parcs, we’ve noticed how obsessed he is with lights so in the evenings we have fairy lights on for him and a light toy which he is fixated on. We’ve now started putting him up to bed in the evenings and I stay up till 9ish before going up to bed. Obviously we have the monitor on so I can hear him, should I need to. It’s taking some getting used to though; the Mummy guilt rears it’s ugly head and I worry he’ll wonder where I am. But to be fair he just sleeps through until around midnight so fingers crossed it’s the start of a decent routine and I’ve got everything crossed that as time goes on he starts dropping the 3am feed.

    We had the most lovely weekend and went for a walk around the lake at my in-laws farm. It was a good excuse to put the Quinny Buzz Xtra to the test and see if it could withstand the rough terrain; thankfully it did, although it was slightly muddy!

    Another high light of the week was I had my first night out since having Josh!


    It felt so good to go out. One of the best parts of the evening was getting ready; it was so nice to put on whatever I wanted and not have to think “oh, can I feed in this”.


    I managed to express two decent bottles to leave hubby to feed Josh with, so I could completely relax. I didn’t know how I’d be once I was out; if I’d be checking my phone constantly and have half my mind on the baby or if I’d switch off and enjoy my night. Josh had been really grumpy before I left, so when I was first out I did check my phone a couple of times to see how he was but when Sam sent me the following photo I soon relaxed:


    So in the end, I had a really enjoyable night. I had a fair few glasses of prosecco but only enough to feel a bit tipsy; I did not want to have a hangover the next day and thankfully being sensible paid off because other than being tired, I felt fine. I have to admit even though I had a great night, I still managed to feel some guilt. Why is it no matter what we do we feel guilt. The guilt I felt was due to the fact that I was able to switch off for a few hours, I could just be Fi and have a giggle and not think about baby stuff. And I felt guilty because I didn’t struggle to do that; shouldn’t I be pining and doing the whole checking my phone every five seconds! To be honest I know I shouldn’t feel guilty, I’m a good Mum and I deserved a good night out, Josh was well looked after by his Daddy and I was right as rain the next day. It seems no matter what we do as Mummys we always feel a bit guilty! But I can’t recommend a good night out with your girls enough – I loved seeing them and having a giggle.

    Mummy guilt seems to be something we feel every day no matter what we do. In fact as I write this I am feeling very guilty; Josh seems to have nails which grow at the speed of light and he is forever scratching his face. I’ve tried scratch mitts but they soon get flung off! So whilst I was feeding him and he was relaxed I cut his nails. I’ve done it before and we survived so I was just super careful, but then I noticed I had nicked one of his fingers. He hadn’t made a sound and didn’t seem bothered but oh my god the guilt I felt, especially as it kept bleeding!! So it seems even when we are doing the right thing we can feel guilty. I have to remind myself that I am doing a good job and that these things really aren’t the end of the world (even though it made me cry)!


    Another highlight of my week, is that I came home to an amazing bouquet of flowers from my friend as I looked after her cat whilst she was on holiday! Talk about spoiling me.

    It’s been a really nice few weeks and I have to say I am loving life at the moment. I love seeing Josh grow and change every day and we have lots to look forward to including a visit from Nanny and Gramps next week which we are very excited about!  And of course as I mentioned last week we have Valentines Day coming up – a good excuse to get the husband to cook dinner and me to sort out breakfast <3


    Have a great week everyone and enjoy Valentines Day! I’ll look forward to writing Joshs 12 week update – 3 months! That’s crazy to even think about.

    Lots of Love x

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    Leave a comment

    1. February 10, 2016 / 5:19 pm

      Aww, what a lovely post and what an adorable pic of Josh! So glad you had fun on your night out. 🙂

    2. February 12, 2016 / 1:45 pm

      Lovely update! It’s so good to pick an outfit without having to worry about if you can breastfeed in it, isn’t it? I remember that freedom so well! So pleased things are getting that bit easier for you – the guilt is a weird thing though, isn’t it? I used to scoff at it and think, there’s no reason to feel guilty, I won’t be like that, but the mind isn’t a logical thing when it comes to parenting sometimes!

    3. February 13, 2016 / 8:09 pm

      Oh look at him, he’s adorable! You look lovely too 🙂 good for you having a well deserved night out! It’s nice when you turn that corner and you get your evenings back as a couple…Thanks for joining us lovely…you’re doing Amazing xxx

    4. February 14, 2016 / 3:51 pm

      I think though, that guilt is part of being a good mum. And it’s evolutionary too – it’s something our genetics have developed so that we don’t abandoned our kids. It’s never going to be easy to just throw away millions of years worse of evolution 🙂 Your baby is adorable by the way. #KCACOLS

    5. February 14, 2016 / 6:51 pm

      Awww what a lovely update! It sounds like you are doing really well, and can I just say, you look fabulous! The mummy guilt is the wrost, it never goes away. There always seems to be something, but youre doing a great job and its so nice to hear that you are really enoying it and have got into a rhythm and routine with it all. Look forward to reading your next update 🙂 Emily #KCACOLS

    6. February 15, 2016 / 10:58 am

      Love the egg shapers!

      Also those nails never stop growing quickly!!


    7. February 15, 2016 / 4:03 pm

      Blimey, you look amazing for 10 weeks in!! I was barely out of a dressing gown I don’t think! 😀 It’s brilliant you got to enjoy a night out, time for yourself is so important and makes you a better mother in my experience. Also, nicking their finger, we’ve all done it!!! You can nibble their nails, or buy little baby files and just file them down. Thank you so much for linking up to #bigpinklink

    8. February 15, 2016 / 11:26 pm

      Ah cute post! And you look fabulous for having just a 10 week old! Glad you managed to enjoy your night out ? Kathy xx #KCACOLS

    9. February 17, 2016 / 9:20 pm

      He is a gorgeous little man, and you are so right about deserving a night out. I also love your red sky picture.
      Thanks for sharing with us, Tracey xx #abitofeverything

    10. newmummyblogcom
      February 22, 2016 / 10:11 pm

      Awww a lovely update Fi! It’s fab to hear you’ve got a routine and he’s so regular with his feeds…. anything to get decent sleep 🙂 It sounds like a brilliant girls night out! Thanks for sharing #TheBabyFormula

    11. Becky, Cuddle Fairy
      February 23, 2016 / 12:08 pm

      What a lovely update. Josh is doing so well & getting so big. That’s fantastic that you had your first night out! The cocktails look fab & you look gorgeous! Like you never had a baby!! Thanks so much for sharing with #bloggerclubuk x

      • February 23, 2016 / 12:11 pm

        ? thank you for such a lovely comment xxx ?

    12. February 23, 2016 / 8:58 pm

      What a lovely post – Josh is such a cutie! It sounds like you are both settling into things really well which is great. Mum guilt is always going to be a part of you now I’m afraid – I don’t think it ever goes once you’ve become a mum.

      Glad you enjoyed your night out – you look fab!

      Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to see you back again on sunday x

    13. February 23, 2016 / 9:12 pm

      You look fabulous and Josh is SO cute! Absolutely adorable! Lovely update to read. #KCACOLS

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