Evening you lovely bunch!
I’ve missed blogging the past week – it’s been a hectic one with a holiday to Center Parcs thrown into the mix so I’ve not had a chance to blog much.
Last week my lovely friend Lynne from NewMummyBlog nominated me to take part in the #RockingMotherhood tag that’s been doing the rounds in the Mummy Blogosphere! The idea was dreamt up by Patricia from White Camellias and I immediately loved the concept of taking a moment to look at what you achieve and do as a Mum and celebrate that! So here’s my go!
I am not particularly patient…. when food is involved there is literally no patience and it’s quite frightening. Same goes for traffic…. and queues….. Hmm. Turns out, having a baby gives no option other than to become more patient. You may have a hundred and one more things to do once your bundle of joy comes along but in those early days you have no choice but to slow down – you can’t do everything at a 100mph! And this teaches you to become more patient as your baby enters toddlerhood and will test your patience to such a degree it’s way more daunting than a hangry Fi waiting for dinner in a restaurant! I’m talking entire rolls of toilet paper being unravelled, iPad screens being smashed and the ability to poo through an entire outfit 5 seconds before you have to go out the door. It’s all about deep breathes, finding it in you to laugh at these ridiculous situations and comfort yourself with the thought of a glass of wine at the end of the day.
I am a big softie. I know I come off as quite feisty – I’ve been told I’m very strong willed (I am it rocks – we’ll get on to that) but I also love with my whole being! With Josh, that is ten fold. It’s indescribable. I’d do anything for him, I’d die for him. It’s such a cliché but it’s so true – you never know love like it until they come along and turn your world upside down.
Yes I do indeed kick arse at being strong. It’s almost something that I have had to teach myself as I’ve grown. But I am strong. I was strong getting through a frankly horrendous labour. I am strong for persevering at breastfeeding when it was HELL ON EARTH (NOTE – I am NOT saying anyone who doesn’t breastfeeding isn’t strong so PLEASE don’t take it that way – I hate that I have to put that in here cause anyone that knows me knows I’d never mean anything rude but seeing as I’ve learnt there are many people who like to pick a debate I thought I’d throw that out there – anyway, back to me), I am strong for getting through those nights when you get no sleep. I am strong for refusing to be defined as a Mother – I’ve done things my way. I’ve used my gut instinct as a Mum and my common sense, and for me it’s truly worked. I’m strong for speaking up when I felt my anxiety return and seeking advice. I’m strong because I believe in myself as a Mum and as a person.
I’m Not Perfect
In my opinion no one is (except Tom Hardy, and whoever discovered/created Prosecco). I make mistakes, I don’t always get it right. But I am constantly learning. Being a mother is a constant learning curve and just because sometimes things go wrong and you have a total meltdown because you feel the Mama Guilt and think you’re the worlds worst mother, you’re not. It’s not easy being a Mum. Being a perfect Mum has surely got to be impossible. Which leads me to my next point.
I Do My Absolute Best
What can be better than doing your best. I do my best at being the best Mum I can be. For someone who never cooked, I’ve done my best to follow recipes and cook for Josh. I do my best to make sure we get out the house every day in the fresh air even if I have a gazillion things to do. I am constantly amazed by Josh and am fully aware of how lucky I am to be his Mum. I will always do my best for him and stand by him.
We laugh a lot. I’ve learnt to be silly with Josh – I’ll do any stupid dance to hear that adorable little giggle. I’ve learnt to let go a bit, to relax. We have such fun and having a happy son is massively important to me. I’m immensely proud of the fact that a lot of that is down to me (and his Dad of course who has perfected the art of peek-a-boo which also created a lot of baby giggles! I really want Josh to grow up with memories of laughter ringing in his ears.
I love that we are already making memories for Josh. As a family we want to give him the happiest times of his life. The fact that I make my baby happy is kicking arse at motherhood in itself!
Cuddles Are Everything
I am a massively affectionate person and I love that Josh is now starting to give hugs back. I want Josh, and any other children I may be lucky enough to have, to be comfortable with affection. There is nothing like a cuddle from your Mum and Dad no matter how old you are. Josh will get squidges from me for as long as he allows me!!! They are the best moments.
In The Night Garden… hell on earth and an absolute saviour rolled into one. I loathe Iggle Piggle and his slutty sidekick Upsy Daisy. SO MANY INNUENDOS
I Don’t Judge Other Mums
You see many a Mum at the supermarket or soft play who is struggling. They might look tired, they might have a baby with them having an absolute shit fit for no apparent reason other than to embarrass them, they might be having one of those days when everything goes wrong ending with the shopping bag splitting sending tampons and condoms flying across the floor to an elderly couples feet in the middle of Sainsburys………
I feel them because I’ve been them!!! So I will ALWAYS be one of those Mums who will strike up a conversation with a fellow Mama who looks like they could do with sharing the chocolate I’ll inevitably have in my bag. I want to be there for other Mums, to let them know it’s not just them. I really hope that makes me a decent Mum and a decent person.
So there we have it. That’s why I’m rocking Motherhood. My boy is loved, cuddled, fed, laughing, healthy, and content. I feel very proud that as his Mum I can say I’m responsible for that.
I’m not sure how many I am supposed to tag so here’s a few of my fellow Mummy bloggers that I love and hope would love a chance at doing this post:
Catherine at MissP Meets World
Hayley at Hayleys Little Things
Hannah at Hannah Lucy
Melissa & Stacey at Beauty and the Mini Beasts
Rach at Our Rach Blogs
Take it away ladies!
PS. All you Mamas are amazing – just reminding you of that <3