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  • The 5 things body confidence challenge

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    Morning lovelies,

    The other day I came across a post called the 5 day body confidence challenge, by Eilidh over on Mummyandmonkeys blog. After some time of feeling a bit negative about how she looks (God knows why, she is beaut), this yummy mummy decided to set herself a challenge, to look in the mirror and choose 5 things she likes about my face and body so that, in her own words “the next time I see myself and start to focus on the parts I’m not so keen on I need to remember instead the features that I like”.

    As soon as I read this I thought what a great thing to do! Us women, especially mums, are so down on ourselves and our appearance. We seem to be constantly critical of ourselves and saying we need to improve this, that and the other about ourselves! And whilst we do this, we always find the time to compliment friends who do the same thing. How ironic then that we can’t find it in ourselves to do this for ourselves.

    Before I get on to the challenge itself I did want to touch on this subject.

    There has been a lot in the media recently about body shaming and how unacceptable it is. I have to agree but perhaps in a way not to be expected. There is often a lot of things in the media about body shaming those who are overweight; and I agree, people shouldn’t be teased or mocked for being curvy. And in response to this, on This Morning last week, three admittedly obese women came on the show in their bikinis to promote the fact that they wouldn’t be shamed by others for showing off their bodies. It’s great that these women were all about confidence and not taking any crap; these are attitude traits I really admire.

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    But would it have been the same if someone my size had gone on there. I’m a size 8 and I know I am very lucky to be naturally slim. But if that feature on the show had been about three women size 8 then it would have been vilified for promoting “unhealthy” slim body images and I’ve not doubt the “real women” brigade would have jumped on board. We constantly get told curves make a real woman, that men don’t want a “bag of bones”. Now how is being so negative towards those women who have a slimmer figure any better than shaming someone who is larger, and therefore putting their health at risk! It drives me mad.

    Real women are about being strong, confident and above all, supportive of one another. There is enough unnecessary competition between women as it is, to then pitch curvy women against slim women, and make us skinny minnies feel like we aren’t as much of a real woman is ridiculous. There is so much support for plus sized ladies and the fact they shouldn’t be singled out, it’s a shame there isn’t  as much support for smaller ladies who also get singled for their “promotion of an unrealistic body image”! How about it’s not that, but that some people are just naturally smaller than others. Rather than all this, lets celebrate one another, all women, all shapes and sizes.

    In turn we can then begin to feel more confident about ourselves, as we should. I actually felt quite nervous about doing this post initially because I didn’t want it to come across as arrogant or that I love myself. My intention with this post is to encourage you girls to find and celebrate features you like about yourself and remind yourself you’re beautiful every day. And I really hope that’s the message you take from it. And of course remember, beauty is only skin deep; what’s inside is what really counts and makes you the gorgeous person you are.

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    OK ranting over, here is my list of 5 things I’m fond of about in myself:

    • My eyes; I like the fact they are green, big and I think my eyes give away a lot about me and how I’m feeling, which is something I really like
    • My waist – I thought I’d lose this after having Josh but I’ve been very lucky and it’s survived!! I am going to keep working hard on it though.
    • My bum. It’s safe to say my husband is obsessed with my bum! I never had great boobs but I always had a decent arse which is something I’m very happy about!
    • My legs. I’ve inherited my long legs from my mums side of the family. I used to get teased at school for my skinny legs and was so miserable about it but now I’m so grateful for them!
    • My freckles. Another thing I got teased for and it took a long, long time to feel positive about them. But now I like them; I think freckles on the nose are quite cute so I’m happy with them

    So there we have it. I’d love some of you lovely fellow bloggers to write positively about yourselves and what you are happy with about yourself. Lets get this positive post doing the rounds. In the spirit of that I am going to nominate the following lovely ladies;

    I hope you enjoyed this post and again, a big thanks to Eilidh for kicking all this off.

    Thanks for reading x



    1. April 20, 2016 / 9:38 am

      Love this positive post – such a wonderful thing to do! Hoping to be nominated as I think it’s a great idea 🙂 xx

    2. April 20, 2016 / 10:07 am

      Thank you for the nomination lovely. A very positive post! 🙂 I will get thinking- eeeeks!

    3. April 20, 2016 / 11:17 am

      Another pot me for get writing!! Thanks for the nomination x

    4. April 20, 2016 / 8:04 pm

      What a lovely positive post! I do agree with you on how often we seem to overlook ‘skinny shaming’ – I had a very skinny friend in school who was always stressing about how skinny her legs were. Whatever our body is like, we can’t seem to be completely happy with it. Thanks so much for the nomination. Isn’t it ridiculous though that I’m sat here thinking “I’m not sure I could think of 5 things”. Will have to get thinking…

      • April 21, 2016 / 6:21 am

        Ah thanks honey – you’re absolutely right it isn’t emphasised at all. Ah I’m sure you can chick – you’re gorge 🙂 xx

    5. April 21, 2016 / 10:32 am

      This is fab. I think we get so hung up on what we DON’T like about ourselves, that we forget to celebrate what we DO love ourselves. This is a great reminder and way of doing it! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub chicky xx

      • April 21, 2016 / 10:40 am

        Thanks hun so glad you enjoyed it xx #coolmumclub

    6. April 22, 2016 / 5:20 am

      Loved this when I read it the other day Fi! I’ve been thinking about my five things…Warning you now though, I am rubbish at tagged posts lately!! Maybe I’ll have to try and do this one as I love the sentiment behind it.
      Thanks for tagging me, and also for linking up to #coolmumclub xxx

      • April 22, 2016 / 8:23 am

        Ha ha it’s OK – I know you’re super busy, but am so glad you enjoyed the post! Always happy to be part of #coolmumclub xxx

    7. April 22, 2016 / 12:53 pm

      This is such a fab idea. I read somewhere that we are prone to thinking 10 negative thoughts for every 1 positive one. This is a step in the right direction to bring some balance back to our lives.

    8. April 24, 2016 / 8:16 am

      Such a great post, and so true. People are constantly telling me that I’m unhealthy because I’m a petite size 6. The truth is that yes, I actually would like to gain a little weight because I’m not a fan of being this skinny, but I am grateful that my body is strong and healthy and that’s all that really matters. As for not being a real woman… Well, I’m woman enough to have carried and birthed two healthy, 8lb baby boys, so I reckon I’m doing okay on the real woman front, just like you ;). #KCACOLS

    9. April 24, 2016 / 10:18 am

      Just to let you know that I am still working on this post. Trying to find 5 things – eeeeks! #KCACOLS

      • April 24, 2016 / 7:28 pm

        I bet there’s loads chick 🙂 Can’t wait to read it xx #KCACOLS

    10. serenityyou
      April 24, 2016 / 10:55 am

      this is a lovely idea. Really like your photos you look fab! #KCACOLS

    11. April 24, 2016 / 5:24 pm

      What a lovely idea, and you really do look beautiful. I LOVE your little rant, I too have been very slim my whole life, I eat more than my husband and have never been to a gym in my life, but I constantly have to put up with negative comments from other people. I am so sick of having to defend myself, to share that I eat more than my husband and kids put together, that I don’t exercise, that I would gladly gain a few pounds if I could. Body shaming is so wrong, big or small, it needs to stop! #KCACOLS

      • April 24, 2016 / 7:22 pm

        I couldn’t agree more hun! It’s so unacceptable. Thank you for your lovely comment x #KCACOLS

    12. April 25, 2016 / 9:20 am

      Thanks for joining in 🙂 love this post I hate skinny shaming. I was bullied at school for being thin and it created some awful negative body thoughts for me that I still struggle with now. Xx

      • April 25, 2016 / 10:22 am

        Thank you for letting me ? it is horrible isn’t it and cruel things said can really stay with you xx

    13. April 25, 2016 / 11:15 am

      Bloody good for you love! I’ve seen a similar thing and it’s really hard to come up with those things. If you asked others they could probably come up with loads more, you have been very modest. I also got teased for being skinny, I was like a rake and craved having bigger legs. What a fool! I love my skinny long legs now. I just wish the middle section would follow suit and stop being to mummified! #KCACOLS

      • April 25, 2016 / 3:21 pm

        Ah thanks chick! I know people can be cruel; you can’t seem to please them all regardless of what your body size is! I bet you look fab chick xx #KCACOLS

    14. April 27, 2016 / 11:55 pm

      Love this post!! This is a great challenge. I think it is very common to get into the habit to criticise yourself and dislike every single part of your body! I have always struggle with my weight since the school going up and down. I have curves and it is not an easy shape to keep in a decent weight. I love my food so it is hard to say no sometimes. I have had times that I have a good will power and everything is great but there are many more times that I have lost that will power and my weight is a problem again. It is so difficult to keep it up. I love the idea of loving and appreciate yourself highlighting the parts of your body that you feel more proud about. I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. It is great to have you! See again on Sunday, 🙂 xx

      • April 28, 2016 / 1:40 am

        It is hard but if we remind ourselves of the things we like about ourselves then it boosts us! Thanks for your lovely comment Hun xx #KCACOLS

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