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  • The Non Negotiable List -The List All Women Need!

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    Hi Everyone,

    OK I admit it, I LOVE  a list! I love being organised and being an ex PA I used to spend half my time writing lists and working my way through ticking everything off. I found it so satisfying to get to the end and know I’d got everything done!

    So when I read about the Non Negotiable List on Laura’s blog Life With Baby Kicks and on Kate’s Blog over at Pouting in Heels I knew I was on to a winner!

    OK so what is a Non Negotiable List I hear you ask! It’s a list all about you; the things that are important to you, that make you smile and yet you never have the time to do, but you should. Because these are things that will make you feel good, relaxed, they will make you smile and they are non-negotiable! They will happen, you’ll be making sure of that!  Only you can take charge of your own happiness and by making sure you take a little time for yourself each day and sticking to your list you’ll feel satisfied and not cause you’ve ticked a chore off your list, cause it’s not like that. It’ll be because you’re happy; the things on your list are things that will make you happy and brighten up your day!

    Making yourself a priority is empowering. For us Mums, the baby is ALWAYS the number one priority. We forget about ourselves and the little things that make our day. This is why the list is NON negotiable – it’s all about rewarding yourself, reminding yourself what you’re worth and not having to compromise.  It doesn’t matter if these things are deep and meaningful, or a bit more light hearted and just one of lifes little pleasures, if it’s important to you then you dedicate yourself to it!

    So here is my list and why these things are non negotiable to me!

    Flowers every week are a must! 


    OK now this is one Kate had on her list and it is one I totally agree with. I am borderline obsessed with flowers, I love them. I think they brighten up a house so much and everytime you see them it makes you smile. So my first Non Negotiable is to make sure we have fresh flowers in our house every week.

    30 Minutes of Alone Time 

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    This is something I make sure I stick to every day. I love Josh, and my husband, more than anything in the world but every day I love to have a bit of time to myself. I tend to do it in the form of a bubble bath, with a book. It’s that bit of time where I can switch off, and relax and it keeps me sane.

    Personal Grooming….

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    First of all, my toenails must always be painted!! This is something I am fanatical about. To the point of me desperately trying, and just about succeeding, to paint them the day before I went in to labour. I have little feet and I like them to look cute.

    And on another personal grooming note, a tidy bikini line is a definite non negotiable! There is no excuse for letting things get out of control down there. This may sound shallow of me, but it is on my list as it’s important to me. Again, even when pregnant and having to thrash about in the bath whilst I was the size of a walrus to tidy things up, I was determined.


    It is definitely a non negotiable to make sure I don’t forget to take my vitamins every morning especially whilst I am breastfeeding!

    Cosy Bed 


    It doesn’t cost a penny to make your bed in the morning! Isn’t it lovely to get into a cosy, well made bed at the end of a busy day. No matter how busy I am, the bed must always be made!

    Banish Negative Vibes 


    One thing I’ve learnt over the last couple of years is that if you have people around you that radiate positivity they rub off on you; they motivate you and boost your confidence. There is very little that is better than being surrounded by people who make you feel good about yourself. So if you find yourself around negative people, bringing you down with their dramas, making you feel drained or bad about yourself or talking down to you, banish them. You don’t need negativity – it gets you no where but down!



    I’ve always loved handbags! I couldn’t be without them. So when I had the baby I was sad to hear lots of ladies say they never really use handbags again, they just use their changing bags. I got a beautiful changing bag when I was pregnant which I love, but it wasn’t my handbag and I knew I’d still want to use one. And I have, as have a couple of my fellow mummy friends. I know some of you may think I am mad, why would I want to cart two bags around, but my handbag is mine, it’s full of my necessities and things that I like to have with me and I am glad to say I am still happily using mine, along with my changing bag. A definite non negotiable for me.

    Always be a girls girl


    It’s always good to be a girls girl, and I really am one. There is no need to indulge in unnecessary bitching, or allow yourself to be intimidated by other women’s opinions if it’s not what you agree with. Be a strong independent woman but also, support the sisterhood! If another girl compliments your top and asks where you got it, take it as a compliment and tell her, don’t tell a fib cause you don’t want to be copied!

    Spread the Love 


    I make sure I tell Sam I love him and am grateful for him every day. He is amazing and I like telling him this every day. Because it doesn’t matter how many times your other half says it, it’s always wonderful to be told you’re loved.



    A fun final one – always have a bottle of bubbly in the fridge. You never know where the next celebration is coming from!

    I hope you enjoyed this fun little post.




    1. March 8, 2016 / 7:48 pm

      This is a good idea! I have to say mine would probably say the opposite on one count though; I’m a believer that life’s too short to worry about my bikini line (or make the bed, I’m just lazy)! Haha I am so with you on the bath and bubbly in the fridge though. And I still use my handbag sometimes, although not always- it doesn’t work if I am babywearing, I have to use a backpack! My family always moan that I say I love you too often but I don’t think that is possible. #thebabyformula

    2. March 8, 2016 / 8:25 pm

      This is a great list and all of the things that I wish I had time for but rarely do! I cant believe I am going to confess this but I still have the remains of the nail polish on my toes from a wedding I attended back in AUGUST!!!!!!!!!!! #thebabyformula

    3. March 9, 2016 / 1:32 pm

      I love this post! Thank you for an uplifting lunchtime read 🙂 I feel the need to start my own list now. I too love a tidy bed, oddles of bags and bubbles! #BloggerClubUK

    4. March 9, 2016 / 1:57 pm

      I love this! For me, I think it’s really important that I get time to myself at the weekend since I don’t in the week. A chance for a bath in the evening, and to get outside in the garden are definitely non-negotiables. I think I might make one for fresh flowers every week though which I’ve been doing lately anyway and has made such a difference to my mood!

      • March 10, 2016 / 6:34 am

        It really does make all the difference. I love flowers especially at this time of year. Go and get yourself some lovely tulips! xx

    5. March 10, 2016 / 6:22 am

      Great post. Definitely with you on toenails and a comfy bed!!

      • March 10, 2016 / 6:32 am

        Thanks Hun – it’s these little things that brighten your whole day xx

    6. March 10, 2016 / 7:47 am

      Great list, this sounds like a recipe for a beautiful life! I usually have flowers in the house from our garden, but must admit that I’ve really stopped making time for treating myself to little things lately. Your list has inspired me to try and thing of some small things I can do regularly to make life sweeter 🙂

      • March 10, 2016 / 8:19 am

        Ah I’m so glad! We need these little things to make us smile xx

    7. March 10, 2016 / 7:55 am

      oo crack open those bubbles tonight for writing such a fab post – love it and I think all of those would be on my list too (perhaps along with a good blow-dry!) and i hear you about the bag – never would I not have my own bag! Love it! #coolmumclub

    8. March 10, 2016 / 7:33 pm

      Love this idea! My non negotiable list would be really similar to yours…def including the bed making ( I CANNOT get in to an unmade bed!) and the bubbles 😉
      Thanks for all your #coolmumclub love as always! Kisses to Josh xx

      • March 10, 2016 / 7:34 pm

        Oh we deserve the bubbles!!! Xxx #coolmumclub

    9. March 11, 2016 / 10:12 am

      I love this idea. I have a never ending list of chores and sometimes it can really get me down, particulary now as im on maternity leave and feeling the pressure of being a SAHM. After reading this I am going to work on my own non negotiable list. Your absolutely right, we need to have time for ourselves. I have shared on twitter #coolmumclub

      • March 11, 2016 / 10:23 am

        Ah I’m so glad this left you feeling positive xx

    10. Becky, Cuddle Fairy
      March 14, 2016 / 3:51 pm

      I love your list! I used to always have fresh flowers & my toe nails done. I’ll have to get back to that – I miss it! I also love handbags, they are the best! Thanks so much for sharing with us at #bloggerclubuk x

    11. March 14, 2016 / 4:14 pm

      Love your list! I def agree with the bed being made, no matter how late I’m running I have to make the bed otherwise I feel like I’ve left the house in a mess! Mine is my nails, I like to have my nails painted, I think it makes me feel a little bit more put together. So glad you stick to doing everything on your list, think I may have to have a think about my own x #KCACOLS

      • March 14, 2016 / 4:26 pm

        Definitely do it Hun it’s really motivating xx

    12. newmummyblogcom
      March 14, 2016 / 5:52 pm

      I have to say this has made me smile, I love this, and your list is brilliant. A lovely clean made bed = smile, prosecco = smile, handbags = smile …..

      I must admit I didn’t use a handbag again until recently, and I love having it back. I also always used to have nicely painted toenails (I hate my feet, so it makes me think they’re nicer!), and it’s something that has fallen by the wayside as well – again something I want to change.

      Thanks for sharing #TheBabyFormula

      • March 14, 2016 / 7:07 pm

        Ahh I’m so glad it made you smile! Us girls need these little luxuries! I love my handbag I couldn’t give it up!! ?

    13. March 14, 2016 / 8:32 pm

      Haha, I couldn’t always keep a bottle of fizz around because it would get drunk every other night! I love it 😀 #KCACOLS

    14. March 14, 2016 / 9:54 pm

      Aaah, this did bring a smile to my face, but I now think you may not like me that much…!! You see, I can’t do flowers. I try and be appreciative if someone gives them to me, but they seem to be just one more thing I’ll do a terrible job of looking after! I’ve NEVER painted my toenails, or had a pedicure. In fact, my feet are mainly made up of hard skin and grossness, but I did used to do dance training for 30 hours a week, so I blame that! My feet were mainly a bleeding blistered mess, and I’ve ignored them ever since! I haven’t made my bed in 2 years… (something is telling me I need to stop now…!!) and sometimes I can’t remember the last time it was changed…!! And if you saw my bikini line, you’d easily mistake me for king kong, I don’t think that has been seen to since baby one, 3 years ago!! But bubbles I’m so on board with! In fact, I’ve just had prosecco while blog commenting! Soooooo, shall we go with opposites attract?! We can still be friends, right…?!!
      Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink!

      • March 15, 2016 / 8:32 am

        Ha ha this cracked me up! I’ll forgive you – as a fellow dancer I can understand the feet thing! And as a fellow bubbles fan well that makes up for everything!!! ? definitely still be friends ? xx #bigpinklink

    15. March 15, 2016 / 7:17 am

      I compiled my non-negotiable list recently and although it was difficult to list things at first, I soon realised exactly what is needed to ensure my wellbeing isn’t compromised. I agree with the majority on your list – a cosy bed is an absolute must! #bigpinklink

    16. fairyqueen
      March 15, 2016 / 7:14 pm

      Good for you, its great to have a list and this type of one is something I have never done. I think I need to and probably need to make the boys in my household know! Thanks for giving me food for thought:)




    17. March 15, 2016 / 9:33 pm

      I also had to paint my toenails before giving birth.Hard work though isn’t it lol!I love my handbags too.I was pleased to find that changing bags have come a long way though and there are some really nice ones around x #kcacols

    18. March 17, 2016 / 1:28 pm

      Totally with you on all of these. Love the pictures. I am feeling an urgent need to check out my bikini line!!

    19. March 18, 2016 / 11:08 pm

      Great post! I completely agree about beds – I always make them! So much nicer to have them all nice & made ready for the night. #KCACOLS

    20. March 19, 2016 / 12:15 am

      What a fab list! I agree with telling your partner you love them – it’s nice to be told and appreciated. I also wrote my happiness non-negotiables this week and I had kisses and cuddles every night with my boys on my list aswell as time out for myself and date nights!

      Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS I hope to see you back again on Sunday x

      • March 19, 2016 / 6:58 am

        Thanks hun – I agree it is so important. xx

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